It’s summer time and the “shows” are in town. We either love them or hate them.
I asked this question on my social media group, Is/was your relationship an emotional roller-coaster?
At what point do you/did you decide to get off?
These are some of the replies:
“When he punched me in the face and said he was then going to hang himself in the garage. 16 years of psychological abuse, control and manipulation. It was the wake up call I needed as I was determined my kids wouldn’t be exposed to that. 8 years on he is still trying to hurt our children and didn’t tell them when his mother died recently. Proud to have rebuilt my life but so sad he can still hurt our kids.”
“When my Dad passed. Huge light bulb moment for me”
“Yep. Got off when it started making me feel real sick”
“When I had no money for 2 weeks to feed the kids”
“Years too late , when I woke up in a hospital bed with police officers say next to me I filed for divorce from my hospital bedside , met at school age 13 , dating from 15 married at 19 , 25 years and a silver wedding later bang my life blew up in one night .
A head trauma consultant said to me to turn this negative situation into something positive call this the best blow to the head ever & he was genuinely thinking of me as it gave me the push to say you’ve had the best of me but you are never having the rest of me x”
Are we programmed from being little to enjoy roller coaster rides? I often hear people talk about mental health and how “if it wasn’t for the lows, you wouldn’t get the highs”, but is that true in relationships?
Why do the lows need to bee so bloody far down?
I will do anything to help my children stay away from toxic relationships – including with family. We all have negative relatives, don’t we!!
By showing our kids what to look out for, we are keeping them safe. Reading “Be Kind. no Excuses” will help you with that.
Love and Light.
Rie x